We all have times when we self-sabotage.
Sometimes we know we are doing it and other times, not so much. Becoming self-aware is a key to overcoming this self-defeating and really bad habit, but first, you have to recognize the most common symptoms of self-sabotage.
Take a look and see if you’ve experienced any of these self-sabotage symptoms:
- You often sit on too many choices for too long.
You take “it’s good to have choices” to a whole other level. By the time you actually make a decision the circumstances have changed and you start over with the choices!
- You are a master at being busy over actually being productive.
This may go without saying, but you are a very proficient planner, but less than efficient doer.
- You are the victim more than you are the victor.
If blame was a game, you’d get the trophy! (things are just never your fault, I know)
- If your narrative had a name, it would be “negative”.
Your vocabulary is filled with “I can’t”, “I wish”, “If only” or this doozy….”When”. In other words, perfectionism is paralyzing you!
- You whine about what happened.
Most likely because you are “working it” to death! Instead of taking a breather and time to celebrate your wins.
Well, any of these symptoms “happen” to you or maybe even creep up? Listen, I understand how hard it can be to stop when it comes to self-sabotage, even if/when it happens by “accident”. In my pursuit to achieve prioritized focus on my intentions, goals, plans and execution of all three, I’ve learned some ways to stop this self-sabotage cycle. Maybe it can help you too.
3 ways to stop self-sabotaging yourself:
- Focus on what is more than what if.
We can get so caught up in our future more than we concentrate on the facts of our present. And more importantly, how we can prioritize our present actions to make our future more of a realistic “when” than “what if”… Process your present and then deal with it
- Stop starting over!
Tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, maybe… When you keep putting things off, it’s either not a priority or you have too many things on your plate. Choose ONE goal at a time and decide how long it will take you to complete; one week, one month, one quarter or one year. This is the typical time frame significant progress and even achievement happens for a goal. With consistent action and prioritized focus of course.
- Don’t ignore the power of momentum!
Working to make progress on overcoming self-sabotaging bad habits right there with ya,