Taking Control: Out with the Old, In with the New

This post is about taking control, and specifically recognizing that your old faith isn’t going to be enough to deliver you from new problems. But we’ll get to that.

Do you feel the need to control just about everything? I know that I used to be very much of a control freak! Okay, so I still have some control freak tendencies and “episodes” from time to time. But, they’re definitely less. Due to the fact that I learned what trying to control everything really meant. 

This knowledge changed my perspective and helped me loosen my grip on control. Hey, loosened is better than a death grip. Remember I still have tendencies. Progress, my friend, progress. Anyway, maybe this knowledge can help you relax your grip on control a bit more too.

I’ve learned that wanting to control everything is rooted in…FEAR. 

Fear of what? Why? Well, friend, that answer is as individual as we are. For most of us though, FEAR is likely at the root of our control-freak tendencies.

Out With The Old

Take some time and think of the things you just HAVE. TO. CONTROL. Then take a moment to get honest about – why. 

Do you really need to be in control, or is there a fear you’re hiding behind? A fear of :

  • Not feeling safe
  • Not being the leader or person in charge 
  • Not being the source of making others “happy”
  • Not having the freedom to do what you want

Controlling your priorities, time and emotions are good. Please don’t think I’m talking about letting that all go by the wayside by any means.

We’re talking about making decisions based on your priorities! Now what those priorities are depend on you, your beliefs, as in where you put your faith, and the alignment of those in your everyday life. 

Old faith is not enough to deliver you from new problems.

When you can come from a place of intention and purpose more than your fears and feelings, you’ll not only find but KEEP your focus!

In With The New

We kicked off this blog with the title, Taking Control: Old Faith Won’t Deliver You From New Problems. If the title was too vague for you, the goal was to gently nudge you out of your comfort zone. 

After all, “old faith” is a type of code for a comfort zone is it not? And you and I have lived long enough to know that there’s always a new problem needing our particular solution every day. 

There’s no such thing as an old problem, if you think that, then I’m the bearer of some sad reality—it’s just a bad habit that we’ve learned to tolerate. I’ll say it again for the people in the back.

An old problem is a bad habit that you’ve learned to tolerate.

New problems need solutions. Solutions only come from action. Actions come from beliefs.

Here are just a few deep dives to help you get past some of those “old problems”: 

VAL, that’s you, Valued, Amazing Lady, no one can tell you what your dream is or what your success looks like.

One has been assigned to you and the other is defined by your focus and your goals. 

No matter how out of control things may seem or even be around us, we get to choose where to prioritize our focus. And truth be told, focus is the only way to any goal! 

Prioritized focus, it’s the only way to win your way to your goals every day. In your faith, in your life, and in your business.

growing my faith to solve everyday problems right there with ya,


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  1. Sally M. Chetwynd on November 9, 2022 at 8:56 am

    God has a way of putting what we need to know right in front of us, persistently. I read your post right after reading today’s “Our Daily Bread.” I see a strong relationship between your post on control and ODB’s message about the need for discernment.

    Ephesians 5:15-16 – Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.
    From ‘Our Daily Bread’ for November 9, 2022
    A life of wisdom is an invitation to pursue discernment and good decisions as God guides us, even when we wrestle with what might be disputable – Glenn Packiam

    • Deana on November 9, 2022 at 10:05 am

      God is always working a “theme” and I love when we catch it! Thanks so much for sharing the connection 💗

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