How To Detox The Doubt and Slay The Self-Sabotage

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Raise your hand 🙋‍♀️if you’ve ever wanted to find a way to ditch doubt and self-sabotage.

You know, those brats that seem to get all comfy in your head. Like fuzzy socks and a cozy blanket comfy when things start to go a bit off the rails. 

C’mon, don’t tell me that when things start getting bumpy, the doubt doesn’t start bullying its way into your head. 

And those self-sabotaging habits? Yeah, they’re right behind that doubt with its finger on the doorbell!

Not sure if your self-sabotage is really a habit?

Check out 👉 this blog post if you want to identify self-sabotaging symptoms and what you can do about them.

Today’s post is about finding ways that you can learn to detox from the doubt that plops on the couch in your head and slay the self-sabotaging siblings that come along for the ride.

You know that I like to start off by making sure that we understand just what it is we are talking about. Defining terms keeps us on the same page.

a process or period of time in which one abstains from or rids the body of toxic or unhealthy substances; detoxification.

Right off the rip, I’ll tell you it takes a process and a period of time to rid yourself of those toxic and unhealthy brain housemates.

Detoxing from the doubt and slaying the self-sabotage takes time and focus.

A good place to start is to assess where your focus is right now. As in, what’s really got your attention? You’ve invited them to stay awhile and now they’ve overstayed their welcome.

You have got to know how to avoid that bully self-doubt and its little sister, self-sabotage.

Which couch have you allowed the sisters of doubt or self-sabotage to get comfy?

  • The Couch of Unforgiveness
    Are you hanging onto the hurts, heartaches, and could-haves?
  • The Destinations Couch
    Are you too attracted to the possibility more than the reality and the probability?
  • Couches of Many Pursuits
    Are you seeking to add more to your affluence more than paying attention to influences? Both those that influence you, and those you are influencing?

Taking the time to identify where and when you allow these chicks to get a bit too comfy is super important. Because if you don’t these couches become real danger zones.

You can choose to be fearful of “those danger zones” or learn to become dangerous.

And as I see it, you have 2 options:

Option 1: You see telling doubt and self-sabotage to get off the couch in your head as dangerous and too scary. Because after all, what will happen? What could happen?

Option 2: Doubt and self-sabotage knows that if they find themselves on YOUR mind’s couch, they should be scared. They know they’re in danger of being evicted!

Option 1 is dangerous because you think that these thoughts and habits have the control. Option 2 makes YOU the dangerous one, because that control has been within you all along, my dear VAL*! (that’s you – valued, amazing lady) *or you SAM – super, awesome man, but most ’round these parts are the ladies 😉

Now which would you rather be? The person that’s fearful allowing doubt and self-sabotage endanger your potential and your future? Or as someone who’s dangerous when it comes to mindsets and their tactics of getting in your way?

Give yourself permission to be dangerous against these mindsets and 🛡ARMOR UP ⚔ against them!

I LOVE how the Message version of Ephesians 6:14-18 puts it 🥰

Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.

Ephesians 6:14-18 MSG

3 Keys to detoxing the doubt and slaying the self-sabotage

Now whether or not they’re the keys or just some of mine you’re welcome to borrow. When my own mind-bullies start getting the best of me, I dig in my heels and grab for these 3 keys. God, guts, and grit.

I call on God first, after all, He knows my weaknesses, blind spots, and hiding places. So why not get some insight for the guts it’s going to take to kick these mind-bullies to the curb? Once I’ve got God’s direction, and the courage and determination to get the job done, it’s time to get gritty and do it!

God –> knows what needs to be done and how to get you to successfully do it

Guts –> the courage it takes to follow His instructions and guidance

Grit –> the don’t give up attitude to see the job through no matter how long the process

There you have it, my tips on how to detox from doubt and slay your self-sabotage tendencies. Did you find this helpful? Have your own resource or formula for evicting these two mind-bullies? I’d love to know!

In the meantime, I’ll be showing those couch sisters just how dangerous it is for them to plop on my mind’s couch!

practicing prioritized focus enough to be dangerous right there with ya,


Extra resources you may find beneficial 😉:

Ask, Seek, Knock

3 Steps to Prioritized Focus

Tripping Over My 3 G’s

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