Fake it ’til you make it. Sound advice or an excuse?
I get it, the most common use of this phrase is meant to encourage us.
To move us outside of our comfort zone by ‘faking’ confidence. The thought is, when we ‘fake it’ [confidence] we’ll actually become more confident. It’s like ‘faking out’ your brain to get you to achieve something you fear you can’t.
Does it work? Sure it does! Short-term. But when it comes to ‘making it’ for the long-term, there’s definitely more.
Mind-set, belief, heart transformation – whatever you call it, it comes down to choice.
You either give yourself permission to succeed or you don’t.
The results are in you and up to you.
As I heard the speaker and author Mary Christensen put it,
“You cannot fail if you do not quit until you succeed.”
There are countless resources and experts available to help you navigate from where you are to where you want to be. You can easily find everything from advice, step by step instruction, charts, formulas, statistics and the list goes on and on…
All of this is great, IF you apply and take action!
BUT, these methods can also be counter productive because you can:
- spend all of your time learning to become a success instead of actually being successful (so guilty of this ‘analysis paralysis’ more than I care to admit)
- look for excuses as to why you are not achieving success
(the book/article/blog/speaker/seminar says it takes [fill in the blank] and you think “I don’t have that”…”I can’t afford that”… and just like that you block your success because of ‘until’)
You can follow books, blogs, speakers and systems all day long, but until you choose to believe that you can, make a plan and take action, it’s nothing more than behavior modification.
Behavior modification without heart transformation (belief) will inevitably lead to faking it without making it.
Instead, work hard to be prepared, take some risks (healthy ‘fake it’ mind set) and learn through your experiences (you can’t improve on what you don’t do) and you won’t have to fake it ’til you make it!
Working to make it with as little faking it as possible!
Share your thoughts!