How do you L.O.V.E. you better? (Part 3 of a 4 part blog mini-series)

Welcome back to the 4 part mini-series of ways you can improve how to L.O.V.E. you better!

In the previous posts we covered leadership and ownership and it required you to do some inner digging.

Today will be a bit of an excavation of what we’ve uncovered about you so far. It can also be a bit of a check-in – how are you leading you? Are you owning your part in your journey?

In order to make significant progress in your journey to success (whatever that may be for YOU), you’ll need to identify what’s most important to you.

It’s all about prioritizing your focus on the things you VALUE most and aligning what you say is important to match what you are actually doing.

The V in learning how to L.O.V.E. you better is for VALUE. 

I’m not going to lie, this one can be a tough one to not only hone in and really identify, but especially difficult to match it with your actual to-do list! (and your to-don’t list, but that’d be a whole ‘nother post!)

Let’s take a few minutes to begin the process of identifying what you value and how to integrate those values into your planning so you’ll make progress living intentionally.

V is for vulnerable

Did that word make you feel…vulnerable? It’s a tricky word isn’t it?

We often associate vulnerable with a form of weakness and in a way it is –> BUT it can really be a way to identify what you truly value.

Do things like this really bother you?

  • lateness 
  • abuse
  • sickness
  • rudeness
  • busyness

Think of the things that REALLY get on your nerves…got ’em?

Now identify the opposite of those things. Those “opposite” things my friend, are the indicators to what you VALUE.

Want to see what I mean?

  • lateness = value TIME
  • abuse = value JUSTICE
  • sickness = value HEALTH
  • rudeness = value KINDNESS
  • busyness = value PURPOSE

That vulnerability (weakness) to _______ is something that you value and where you most likely want to see consistent improvement.

A is for action

Knowing what you know now about identifying what it is you value via your vulnerabilities, how do you feel? Did it confirm what you already knew? Maybe you are excited that you were able to finally identify what it is you value?

Now what are you going to DO with that knowledge?

It’s not the having knowledge that’s powerful, but what you DO with that knowledge!

L is for long-term

What would the long-term benefit be from taking action on knowing what it is that is valuable to you?

Taking action, even if it’s just one small thing, done consistently can add up to a BIG thing.

Take a moment to

a) identify that one small thing that you could consistently do and

b) really envision what that consistency would actually look like for you

This is not a time for hacks and quick-fixes.

U is for your underminers

Yep, we’ve all got them – naysayers, told you so-ers and those who just love to undermine what it is we are trying to do!

But here’s what you need to remember…

They are not working YOUR plan, toward YOUR goal, making YOUR progress and have YOUR level of determination!

Don’t underestimate YOU!!

E is for expand

I don’t know about you, but I can have a tendency to focus more on the, “what didn’t go right according to my overthought plan”, than the “hey, that was progress”

We love to plan, but then over analyze the execution. 

Friends, it’s time to expand on the GOOD! Even if doesn’t go “right” – at least you now have a “what not to do” or at least a “next time I’ll try…” to add to our experience report cards.

Let’s double down on our wins, our progress, our supporters, beliefs and especially the actions that will MOVE us forward!

Know what it is that inspires {internal} you toward motivation {external}. Is it a quote, a song, a mantra, a photo, video or even a little Lego Wonder Woman key chain…

It’s time to stop borrowing someone else’s values, so you can own your leadership of YOU!

Working to V.A.L.U.E. my way in how to LOVE me better right there with ya,

“Tune in” next week for the final installment of this 4 part mini-series!






  1. Betty on April 7, 2021 at 12:17 am

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    • DeanaAdmin on April 24, 2021 at 3:43 pm

      Thanks so much! I’m glad that you enjoyed this series of posts and hope that it has helped you do just that – L.O.V.E. you better!

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