Prioritizing Your Focus in the Everyday

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Finding your priorities in your everyday living can be a challenge, but not impossible. While there are often things that come up that are beyond your control, it’s important to remember the things within your control. Priorities are one of those things.

Priorities are one of the things within your control.


If your daily plans often fall short of your expectations this post should serve as a starting point for you. Let’s put the “HA!” in hard and arm you to better identify your priorities in your everyday living. Sound like a plan?

Speaking of plan, that’s one of the biggest things that trips goal-getter’s like us up! We seem to have great difficulty in separating the big, someday dream from the methods and strategies needed for daily progress.

Well, VAL (that’s you, Valued, Amazing Lady), let’s fix that!

Find your F.O.C.U.S. everyday and your priorities will take care of themselves.

I’m about to share a little formula with you that will help keep you on track and literally prioritize your focus. Of course, being me, it comes by way of an acronym so that you can easily remember it.

Feasibility Factor

Finding if your goal for the day, week, month, or next hour is even feasible is step one. There are a few deeper factors that go into this, but remember, the goal of this post is to be a starting point for you.

Start with what’s even feasible for the stage, phase, and craze of your life right now. Give this episode a listen for more about those! (visit the podcast page for the latest episodes)

Feasibility means knowing what’s right in front of you as well as what’s in the near future. Near future is 30-90 days out.

Take Action!
List the things you’ll have to accomplish, as well as the thing you want to do in order to achieve your “in front of you” goal(s). Now put them in order of priority according to your timeline. Finding your daily priorities just revealed themselves, right?

Optimize Your Outcomes

We already mentioned being aware of thing outside of your control, and outcomes are among those things. However, you can still make the best or most effective use of a situation, opportunity, or resource. In other words, you can optimize your potential outcome.

Setting your sights on what’s realistic and your willingness to make it happen based on your output, is exactly what optimizing is all about!

Motivation is an outward result of an inward inspiration.


In order to set yourself up for the best possible outcome, you need to identify what inspires you about your goal and then keep it in front of you. Write it down.

Get focused with to-do crossed out and to-don't arrow to get focused

Don’t be just a goal-setter that never graduates to an actual goal-getter. Really take the time to ask yourself, “What am I willing to do in order to achieve this goal?”, then commit to it.

Take Action!
Make a to-don’t list to coincide with your goal’s priorities, aka, to-do list. This means you have a list of things you won’t do (to-do item) until you’ve done a “partner habit” first.

Example: A to-don’t item would be don’t open email, social, or your texts until you’ve set your intentions for the day ahead.

Prioritize Consistency

Easier said than done, right?! You don’t gain ten pounds overnight, but when we realize it’s our reality we want it off overnight.

Here’s the secret to being consistent, focus on the person you need to become in order to achieve consistency.

Think like the person who is fit, a successful business owner, has healthy relationships. . .

See where I’m going here?

Concentrate less on the to-do’s and more on the person you need to become in order to get it done!


Take Action! It’s your mindset and attitude that will support your attempts at discipline. Focus on thinking, acting like and becoming that person.


Everybody has an underminer showing up in their everyday and wreaking havoc on your priorities. Some of these everybodies are real people, and others imaginary and living between your ears.

Despite how you’re treated, treat yourself, or how you feel,
you are still – and always will be a – Valued, Amazing Lady!


Keeping yourself prioritized in your everyday means you’re going to have to be unbothered by naysayers. Both the real and imagined ones. In my experience I’ve found there are three types of naysayers:

  1. Those that don’t understand you, your work or your goal
  2. Those who feel inferior or unqualified
  3. Those who thrive on putting you down to make themselves feel/look better

What’s a VAL like you to do?

Take Action!

  1. Get clear on who you are, what you’re doing and why. A 12-year old should understand your explanation, if not, you’re not solid on it.
  2. Recognize feelings are emotions and rooted to a deeper issue. Find the root and make a decision.
  3. Determine if they are intentionally attempting to hinder you or you’re hearing criticism as an attack

Stay the course

I don’t know about you but when I hear the word, course, my brain thinks education or race. And for most of us women in business, course, is a buzz word for “hurry up and learn this!”, followed by feelings of FOMO.

I’ll cut to the chase on this important piece of keeping focused on your priorities in the everyday, your everyday.

#1 Pace is more important than your race to achieve the goal.

#2 Improvement begins and ends with YOU.

#3 Exchange “the goal” for memorable milestones.


F is for determining what’s FEASIBLE

O is for OPTIMIZING you goal’s outcome

C is for CONSISTENCY in becoming the future you

U is for being UNBOTHERED by naysayers

S is for STAYING the course, yours

Understanding and practicing what it takes to focus on your priorities in the everyday you’ll be making better decisions. And at a pace that you can actually execute them!

prioritizing my focus in the everyday right there with ya,

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Today’s post is a brief adaptation from part of Chapter 11 of Deana’s book!

Coming July 2023 Deana's book You're A Beautiful Messterpiece

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