Quiet Quitting: Untangling the Mess of the Phenomenon

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Quiet quitting is a pretty loud trend right now and the root goes much deeper than its name implies.

If you’re not familiar with this phenomenon, I’ll try and give you a brief summary. 

First, there can be two kinds of quiet quitting. We’ll call these, quitter #1 and quitter #2 for ease of reference.

Quitter #1

Someone who slowly and intentionally withdraws from their responsibilities until they ultimately quit. Now whether this is a direct result from burnout, lack of appreciation or recognition, or simply a wrong fit, it’s as complex as the individual and situation.

Quitter #2

This one has to do with remaining in place, but doing only the bare minimum of their role, responsibility, or job. Only they can answer if their disinterest and disengagement is due to poor support, motivation, or something in between.

Both of these types of “quitters” have pros and cons. 

Quiet quitting type #1 typically results in actual termination of a relationship, whether personal or professional.

Because it doesn’t cause a big scene or drama this can be looked at as a pro.

However, this type can really impede creating strong, lasting bonds and be seen as a real character flaw. There’s no real closure, growth opportunity, or a potential advocate for later.

A bridge has been burned and the quitter didn’t “finish”. Therefore, a definite con.

On the other hand is type #2 and is one who slowly disengage, stops contributing, or leaves little to no room for flexibility.

Ever try to collaborate or connect with someone who’s standard answer is, “that’s not my job”? Doesn’t exactly bump them to the top of your favorites to work with, does it? 🤷‍♀️

While the process can be slow and sometimes unnoticed. (which I guess you could say is the pro) The journey itself can be agonizing both for the quitter and those around them. (definite con)

The loud impact of quitting quietly.

Do you see yourself in either of these two types of quitters? 

I know many may be thinking this is more of a corporate trend that transpired after cranky millennials didn’t want to give up their remote working gigs post-pandemic.

To that I’d have to say, not so fast…

In fact, it’s touched more of us than we may realize.

See if you’ve had any experience with any of these examples:

  • The social media influencer who’s applauded for her intentionally offensive and divisive manner of who and what she’s quitting.

  • Churches waffling all over the place. Some stand boldly on the Word of God, while others quit taking God at His word and fill in the blanks themselves. 

  • Political circles have been clear on what types of constituents they’re quitting. Completely disregarding who asked for their representation and why.

  • Even marriages are part of the quiet quitting culture.

Please be sure if you’re going to quit something, know that it’s the right time, reason, and thing to do!

Humbly exchanging the right kinds of quitting leads to a quiet life worth living instead of chasing a living to provide a life.

It’s good to give up bad habits.

Leave toxic people.

Mature past self-sabotage. (I’ve written about this before)

These are all things we should quit. Quiet or loud.

Here’s where I want to flip this script a bit.

Without the hustle. No giving in to the grind. Absent of exhaustion.

Simply a process that alleviates the stress and provides a pace that cultivates purpose and even rest!

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We weren’t called to be popular, notable, knowledgeable, or even inspirational. 

Yet that’s exactly what the world is selling and too many of us are duped into thinking we’re buying. Productivity and noteoriety with a press of a button.

But in reality here’s what’s really happening:

👉We’re missing the purpose for the sake of the purchase.

🛒Clicking ‘add to cart’ without counting the cost to our very souls.

💰 Buying into people whose sole intention is to sell us out to the highest bidder.

So where do we go from here?

How do you humbly exchange the selfish kind of quitting for the impactful life you were called to live?

Well, I’m glad you asked.

When I’m feeling lost, completely bewildered, or grappling for clarity on the “right path” or what to do next, there’s one reliable source I turn to without fail.

Here are a few answers I found in it as it relates to the life we were called to live. See if they help kickstart some clarity and direction for you.

  • To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. 1 Peter 2:21 NIV
  • God is faithful, who has called you into fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord. 
    1 Corinthians 1:9 NIV
  • For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future. Ephesians 4:4 NLT
  • You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. Galatians 5:13 NIV

Gaining noteriety and productivity without the hustle, grind or exhaustion only comes when we quit pursuing anything more than God himself.

And believe it or not friend, by pursuing Him quietly and intentionally, you can’t help but live life impactfully – out loud!

May we both learn to pursue the transformation God had intended for us all along, and become just the solution He created us to be!

Cheering you on & praying you up,

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